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WEDDING ETIQUETTE

WEDDING STATIONARY: OVERVIEW >


WEDDING INVITATION WORDING >


WEDDING ENVELOPE ADDRESSING >


 

WEDDING STATIONARY:
OVERVIEW

BEFORE

Engagement Announcements *
Immediately following engagement

Save the Dates **
4-6 Months before
(8 months for destination weddings)

Invitations ***
RSVP / Response Cards ***
Hotel Information**
Reception Cards / Map / Direction Cards **
Order 3-4 Months before the wedding date
Send 6-8 Weeks before
RSVP Date – 2-3 weeks before

 

THE BIG DAY

Programs**
Place Cards / Escort Cards / Table Chart ***
Menus**
Favor Tags*
Order 6 weeks before

 

AFTER

Thank You Notes ***
"Thank You", names or monogram on outside, blank inside, handwritten message.
Order 1-2 Weeks before the wedding date.
Send within 2 weeks after you return from the honeymoon.

Send no later than 3 months after the wedding.

 

*** Necessary
** Nice, but not necessary
* Above and beyond

 

WEDDING INVITATION WORDING

Names

All titles should be spelled out with the exception of Mr., Mrs. and Ms.
Middle initials should not be used. Either spell out middle names or leave them out all together.

Roman numerals ("II", "III"...), "Jr.", "Sr.", are preceded by a comma "Jr." is capitalized, but "junior" is not capitalized when spelled out. Use Roman numerals in names, rather than "the third" or "3rd".

Since the designation "Junior" is used primarily to distinguish the son when his father is still living, it is used on the wedding invitation. Senior is not used, as using both titles would be redundant.

There is a slightly different wording for a case in which the groom's father has passed away, and his mother's name will be included on the invitation. In such a scenario, the groom's name appears without the title "junior," and his mother is named as "Mrs. Herman Wright, senior" (again, "Sr." is also proper, especially in the case of a very long name).

Wording

All street listings in the address should be spelled out. Do not abbreviate "Road", "Boulevard", etc.
Spell out days, dates, and times.

Only proper nouns are capitalized - exceptions are where the line is the start of a new sentence.

Be consistent with your usage of "honour/favour" or "honor/favor." Use either the British version or the American version, but use it consistently (Do not mix "honor" with "favour", etc.).

"request the hono(u)r of your presence" should only be used if the marriage ceremony is to take place in place of worship.
For ceremonies in other venues use "request the pleasure of your company".

 

Bride's Parents Inviting

Mr. and Mrs. Oliver Dudley
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Katherine Lynn
to
Thomas Wright
son of
Mr. and Mrs. Herman Wright
Sunday, the fourth of October
two thousand fourteen
at six o'clock in the evening
Saint Andrews Episcopal Church
Fifty York Street
Lambertville, New Jersey

Mr. and Mrs. Oliver Dudley
request the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of their daughter
Katherine Lynn
to
Thomas Wright
Saturday, the twenty-sixth of July
two thousand fourteen
at half past five o’clock in the evening
The Inn at Lambertville Station
Eleven Bridge Street
Lambertville, New Jersey

Reception to follow

Mr. and Mrs. Dudley
request the honor of your presence
at the Nuptial Mass at which their daughter
Katherine Lynn
and Mr. Thomas Wright
will be united
in the Sacrament of Holy
Matrimony
on the tenth of May
two thousand fourteen
at five o'clock in the evening
The Church f Saint Andrew
81 Swamp Road
Newtown, Pennsylvania

 

Bride and Groom's Parents Inviting

Mr. and Mrs. Oliver Dudley
and
Mr. and Mrs. Herman Wright
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their children
Katherine Lynn Dudley
and
Thomas Patrick Wright
Sunday, the fourth of October
two thousand fourteen
at six o'clock in the evening
Saint Andrews Episcopal Church
Fifty York Street
Lambertville, New Jersey

Mr. and Mrs. Oliver Dudley
and
Mr. and Mrs. Herman Wright
request the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of their children
Katherine Lynn Dudley
and
Thomas Patrick Wright
Saturday, the twenty-sixth of July
two thousand fourteen
at half past five o’clock in the evening
The Inn at Lambertville Station
Eleven Bridge Street
Lambertville, New Jersey

Reception to follow

Mr. and Mrs. Oliver Dudley
together with
Mr. and Mrs. Herman Wright
invite you to share in the joy
of the marriage uniting their children
Katherine Lynn Dudley
and
Thomas Patrick Wright
on Friday, the twenty-first of February
two thousand fourteen
at four o'clock in the afternoon
Holly Hedge Estate
6987 Upper York Road
New Hope, Pennsylvania

Reception to immediately follow

 

Bride and Groom Inviting

Together with their parents
Katherine Dudley
and
Thomas Wright
request the honour of your presence
at their marriage
on Sunday, the fourth of October
two thousand fourteen
at six o'clock in the evening
Saint Andrews Episcopal Church
Fifty York Street
Lambertville, New Jersey

The pleasure of your company is
requested at the marriage uniting
Katherine Dudley
and
Doctor Thomas Wright
Saturday, the twenty-sixth of July
two thousand fourteen
at half past five o’clock in the evening
The Inn at Lambertville Station
Eleven Bridge Street
Lambertville, New Jersey

Reception to follow

Katherine Dudley
and
Thomas Wright
joyfully invite you to share
in their happiness
as they unite in marriage
on Friday, the twenty-first of February
two thousand fourteen
at four o'clock in the afternoon
Holly Hedge Estate
6987 Upper York Road
New Hope, Pennsylvania

Reception to immediately follow

 

 

WEDDING ENVELOPE ADDRESSING

Invitations can be sent with either a double or single envelope. If using two envelopes, the inner envelope is lined, the outer mailing envelope is not. If using only one envelope everyone invited must be listed on the envelope, including 'and guest' and the names of children.

It is traditional to use the complete, formal name and address of your invited guests on the outer mailing envelope of a double envelope set and on the outside of a single envelope. Do not use abbreviations other than "Mr." or "Mrs." Spell out Avenue, Road, Street and State name.

SINGLE GUESTS

Outer Envelopes

Inner Envelopes

Unmarried Female

Miss Katherine Dudley

or

Ms. Katherine Dudley

Miss Dudley

or

Ms. Dudley

Unmarried Female with Guest

Miss Katherine Dudley

or

Ms. Katherine Dudley

Miss Dudley and guest

or

Miss Dudley and escort

or

Ms. Dudley and guest

or

Ms. Dudley and escort

Unmarried Male

Mr. Thomas Wright

Mr. Wright

Unmarried Male with Guest

Mr. Thomas Wright

Mr. Wright and guest

Divorced Female
Kept Married Name

Mrs. Katherine Wright
or
Ms. Katherine Wright

Mrs. Wright
or
Ms. Wright

Divorced Female
Resumed Using Maiden Name

Ms. Katherine Dudley

Ms. Dudley

Widowed Female

Mrs. Katherine Wright
or
Mrs. Thomas Wright

Mrs. Wright

NOTE: Never use 'and guest' if recently widowed.

 

CHILDREN
NOTE: Children 18 and over receive their own invitation. In the case of multiple children, list them by age, oldest first.

Outer Envelopes

Inner Envelopes

Children Under 18

Mr. and Mrs. Thomas Wright

NOTE: Do not put children on outer envelope. Only list parents.

Mr. and Mrs. Wright
Valerie and Paul

Children 18 and Older Living at Home
(Son and Daughter)

Miss Valerie Wright
Mr. Paul Wright

Miss Wright
Mr. Wright

Children 18 and Older Living at Home
(Two Daughters)

The Misses Wright

or

Miss Valerie Wright
Miss Patricia Wright

The Misses Wright

Children 18 and Older Living at Home
(Two Sons)

The Messrs. Clayton

or

Mr. Paul Wright
Mr. Kevin Wright

The Messrs. Clayton

 

 

COUPLES

 

Outer Envelopes

Inner Envelopes

Unmarried Couples Who Do Not Live Together

Miss Katherine Dudley

NOTE: The only name on the outer should be the person who lives at the address.

Miss Dudley
Mr. Wright

Unmarried Couples Who Live Together

Miss Katherine Dudley
Mr. Thomas Wright

Miss Dudley
Mr. Wright

Married Couples
NOTE: Notice the use of 'and' to signify marriage.

Mr. and Mrs. Thomas Wright

Mr. and Mrs. Wright

Married Couple
Female Kept Maiden Name

Mrs. Katherine Dudley
and Mr. Thomas Wright

Mrs. Dudley and Mr. Wright

Married Couple
Female Has Hyphenated Last Name

Mrs. Katherine Dudley-Wright
and Mr. Thomas Wright

Mrs. Dudley-Wright and Mr. Wright

Same Sex Couples

Mr. Mark Jones
Mr. Thomas Wright

NOTE: List in alphabetical order by last name

Mr. Jones
and
Mr. Wright

 

 

MILITARY

 

Outer Envelopes

Inner Envelopes

Male is a Commissioned Officer

Colonel and Mrs. Thomas Wright

Colonel and Mrs. Wright

Male is a Noncommissioned Officer or Enlisted Man

Mr. and Mrs. Thomas Wright

Mr. and Mrs.Wright

Male is a Retired Commissioned Officer

Colonel and Mrs. Thomas Wright

Mr. and Mrs. Wright

Female is a Commissioned Officer,
Male is Not

Mr. and Mrs. Thomas Wright

or

Captain Katherine Wright,
U.S. Army
and Mr. Thomas Wright

Mr. and Mrs.Wright

or

Captain Wright
and Mr. Wright

Both are Commissioned Officers

Colonel and Mrs. Thomas Wright

or

Captain Katherine Wright,
U.S. Army
and Colonel Thomas Wright,
U.S. Army

Mr. and Mrs.Wright

or

Captain Katherine Wright
and Colonel Wright

 

 

PROFESSIONAL TITLES

 

Outer Envelopes

Inner Envelopes

Male Has a Professional Title

Doctor and Mrs. Thomas Wright

Doctor and Mrs. Wright

Female Has a Professional Title

Mr. and Mrs. Thomas Wright

or

Doctor Katherine Wright
and Mr. Thomas Wright

Mr. and Mrs. Wright

or

Doctor Wright
and Mr. Wright

Married Couple
Both Have Professional Titles

Doctor and Mrs. Thomas Wright

or

The Doctors Wright

or

Doctor Katherine Wright
and Doctor Thomas Wright

Doctor and Mrs. Wright

or

The Doctors Wright

Judge

The Honorable and Mrs. Thomas Wright

Judge and Mrs. Wright

Reverend

Reverend and Mrs. Carl Davis

Reverend and Mrs. Wright

Rabbi

Rabbi and Mrs. Jacob Schechter

Rabbi and Mrs. Schechter

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